Loneliness is completely understandable. Retirement, combined with getting on in life, poses a whole new set of circumstances that can lead to lonely feelings or even isolation. Family members are more involved in their own lives now; perhaps bringing up their own children and focused on their work and making a living. Job availability may have forced them to relocate to another city, or even country. Their lives are busy, just as yours was when they were youngsters and you were trying to build them a life.

Then there are your old friends as well as work acquaintances who have possibly moved away or maybe even passed away. Quite possibly their own retirement years are being spent doing activities that leave them little time to socialize with you – like you all did when you shared a common work space or engaged in social encounters with your children as they grew up.

If you’re feeling the effects of loneliness on your psyche, then here are a few tips to keep social isolation and loneliness at bay as you age. Coping with loneliness is easier than you might think, especially if you choose to alter some of your present habits.

Make Your Health a Priority

Make your health, both physical and psychological, a priority. One of the greatest problems with isolation and loneliness is that it can cause people to forget about their health and well-being. A lonely person often feels neglected or even forgotten by others, which can lead people to adopt an unhealthy lifestyle – drinking too much, smoking out of boredom, and overeating. And that all can lead to inactivity and a disinterest in socializing.

By keeping yourself active as well as concentrating on a healthy lifestyle you’ll tend to meet other people who are actively doing the same thing. Simply going to a gym for some exercise or venturing out to the park for a walk or going cross country skiing in the winter could mean you encounter other like-minded people. Even a visit to a local “health food” restaurant or shop could precipitate a meeting with a possible new companion. And think about this. Quite possibly they’re as lonely as you are too and would welcome a conversation, or the chance to form a new friendship.

Get Creative

To avoid loneliness, many people pursue creative activities as they get older. This could be writing books or poetry, even blogging! Some explore their musical side. Some seniors return to their artistic roots; painting, drawing, sculpting, printmaking. Being involved in a creative endeavour or project leaves no time for loneliness to creep in.

Creativity isn’t only about the arts. It can encompass gardening, cooking, dance, interior design, sewing, crafting beer even. The list is endless.

Develop Friendships

You have to make the effort to meet new people – new friends rarely just turn up at your door. Contact your local senior/aging center if you are feeling lonely. They’re a great resource. Often, they’ll organize outings and social functions for people who want to enjoy life with other seniors. Another suggestion involves making friendships through your church, health club, or by joining a service organization. Travel clubs, or special interest groups are also good places to make friends.

Volunteer

Volunteering your time can help you put your own situation into perspective. Helping others less fortunate or contributing to a local cause is a way to highlight the positives in your own life making you aware of the things you can be thankful for. Volunteer opportunities – from community initiatives and hospital work, to lending a helping hand at eldercare centres or homeless shelters, even pitching in at a neighbourhood cleanup event – abound. Invariably, you’ll meet other seniors who are interested in serving their communities too.

Adopt a Pet

Consider adopting a pet. Having a pet provides companionship and means you have something to love and care for, every day. They are the reason to get up every morning. They depend on you. They love unconditionally and you won’t be lonely with one around to care for and chat to and love. Be sure to choose a pet wisely; one that fits your activity level and lifestyle.

Homebound? No Problem

Being homebound is definitely conducive to loneliness. The act of meeting people can be particularly difficult if you are unable to get out and about. We suggest that you contact your area ‘agency on aging’ to inquire about home-visitation services as well as community transportation for the elderly. They can provide a life-line to connect you with others as well as introduce you to activities which can help alleviate your loneliness and sense of isolation.

Conclusion

Anything that helps you feel a little more connected to the world around you is always worthwhile. Even the smallest social experience can make a difference. Loneliness can indicate depression. If you experience any of the following feelings – sadness and despair, loss of appetite, apathy, problems making decisions, suicidal thoughts, or trouble sleeping – then you should arrange to have a discussion with your health-care provider as these are symptoms of depression which need to be addressed.